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12 Things Your Guests DGAFF About
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well hello lovely humans today we are
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gonna talk about 12 things that your
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guests don’t give up one fart in space
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about the whole reason that you’re
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getting married is because you want to
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spend the rest of your life together and
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the whole reason that you’re having a
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wedding is because you want to celebrate
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that story and you also want to share
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that story with all of your close family
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and friends that means for most people
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throwing the best party you’ve ever
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thrown in your entire life however there
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are certain areas that a lot of people
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tend to go overboard in I’m one of them
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I definitely went overboard in at least
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three of these areas if not more I’m not
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saying that you can’t not do these
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things but I am saying that your guests
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don’t care at all about any of the items
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I’m about to list off sorry number one
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your invitations I mean you have this
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great moment where they open the
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envelope and they see it and it’s
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beautiful and some people they throw it
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up on their fridge for a little bit but
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most people the invitation goes straight
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to the trash I’ve been there where I’ve
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seen an invitation for a wedding and
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thought oh my gosh this is so pretty oh
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they did such a great job okay iris you
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pee their trash and think what I do for
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a living like you’d think that I’d hang
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on to this a little bit longer I don’t I
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don’t they go in the trash just like
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everybody else’s do number two programs
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like why why I mean you don’t need to
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give people an outline of events and you
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don’t need to have it printed and set
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out at every single seat it takes a lot
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of time it takes a lot of money you have
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to design them and print them someone
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else to set them out it’s a lot of steps
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for something that someone may clutch on
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to for five minutes so they have to
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avoid conversation with the person
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sitting next to them but it’s really not
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going to provide them with a whole lot
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of real information they’re gonna
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remember for the rest of the day and
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again that piece of paper goes straight
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into the trash so is it really worth it
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coming up number three
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escort cards nobody cares
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they don’t that no one cares about
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escort cards specifically and while it
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is really cool and really unique and
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really intentional to have a
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calligrapher hand do each and every
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escort card and have these cute little
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placeholders and everyone seats
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no one will walk home well no one will
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walk home from your event but no one
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will leave your event going those were
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the most beautiful place cards I’ve ever
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seen I never seen such beautiful place
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cards that’s likely not gonna happen
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unless they’re engraved with gold or
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there’s you know painted on the
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butterfly’s wings you’re gonna have to
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go really really far I do wait for
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escort cards sleeve any sort of a
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lasting impact instead what you can do
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is make a really really large seating
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chart that guests can refer to
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throughout the evening to try to figure
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out where they’re going same can be said
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of the program if you want to do those
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two things in fact it I mean I recommend
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that you do a seating chart
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but escort cards are definitely
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definitely not a thing that you need to
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be worrying about just do a big seating
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chart and it’ll be a lot easier
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number four guestbook I know I know
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don’t get mad but it’s true and you
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could probably ask a lot of your friends
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that have gotten married recently I was
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gonna help fold their guest book is lose
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it’s like mine or most the weddings that
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I happen to work it’s gonna be over
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halfway full this is a super-duper
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traditional thing that we have done for
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I don’t know how long but a lot of times
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unless you put the guest book in front
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of someone’s face they’re not going to
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sign it and you’re gonna leave with a
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half-filled books that you may or may
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not want to put on your coffee table and
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you may or may not look at some time in
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the future sure if it has photos in it
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um it’s from a photo booth or something
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printed with your engagement photos from
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beforehand that’ll be something you’ll
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look back on a little bit more than just
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a book with a bunch of signatures we can
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think about it how often do you look at
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your old yearbooks never this thing in
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sixth grade was bad I don’t I don’t go
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back on that no no no so guest book I
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mean maybe but nobody signs it and then
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no one looks at it so
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um maybe don’t do it number five
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linens nobody cares about Linens it’s
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not gonna make a lasting impact on what
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their view of your wedding day is unless
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they are sequined tablecloths on
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absolutely every table that maybe half
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the guests will notice it’s really not
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worth it just stick with the traditional
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white go floor-length don’t go shorter
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than four lengths because it just flips
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tacky to see table legs but go with the
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traditional white or ivory or maybe do a
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soft color but stick with the base price
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ones because it’s really really not
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worth it it makes no lasting effect on
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your wedding day and guests aren’t gonna
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walk away again like they would with
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butterfly painted escort cards they’re
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not gonna walk away with some sort of
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lasting thought about what your linens
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look like save the money save the time
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it’s not worth it number six first dance
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okay let me qualify this for just a sec
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it’s not that your guests don’t care
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about the first dance because watching
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you two dance for the very first time is
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something really precious and I actually
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probably cry at almost every single
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first dance that I witness I’m a goob
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about first dances I love them what
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guests don’t care about however is if
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it’s choreographed or if it’s the full
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song so don’t stress about it
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don’t spend months practicing with some
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Latin ballroom dance teacher in shoes
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that make you want to shoot yourself
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just get out there and sway back and
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forth for half the song and smile and
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let people celebrate in that with you it
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doesn’t need to be perfect it doesn’t
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need to be practiced just be you number
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seven slideshows honestly after sitting
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through three to five toasts the last
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thing that a guest wants to do is sit
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through a five to ten minute slideshow
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it’s just not interesting for them or
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it’s just more important to you than it
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is to them and there may be special
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moments throughout the slideshow that
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captured their attention but if they’ve
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already been sitting through 20 plus
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minute of speeches and you want to tack
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on another ten minutes that’s a lot to
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expect of a guest who’s just anxious for
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the party to get going so keep that in
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mind when you start to put all those
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photos together maybe
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to a section where you have a bunch of
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childhood photos that people can go
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peruse if they choose to or if you
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really want to do a slideshow set up a
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slideshow area that guests can go visit
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if they’re interested but don’t make
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everybody sit through a 10 minute long
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slideshow that has pictures from both of
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you from infancy to awkward adolescence
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to when you met each other and dating
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it’s beautiful it’s great it celebrates
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your love story but your guests are
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bored get them on the dance floor number
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eight open seating don’t do open seating
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it’s awful because then they have to
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figure out who they’re sitting next to
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and let’s say they get a group of five
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at a table of eight and then awesome
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there’s three chairs left over who’s
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gonna sit there is there a special group
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of three that’s just gonna happen to be
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able to converse with this group of five
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and they’re gonna create a perfect even
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group of eight probably not gonna happen
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we worked in event once where there was
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open seating and I won’t do it again
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I will not do it again because there was
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this poor family of six it was a mom a
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dad and six kids and some of them were
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so young that they shouldn’t be left at
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another table but they were too old to
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be sitting on their parents laps so we
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needed a specific table just for them we
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talked to the venue we talked to the
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bride they’re gonna charge an additional
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fee we put one together it doesn’t have
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a centerpiece and the linen didn’t match
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but we put a table together turn to go
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get them
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turn back around and someone else had
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already filled up the table with five
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people great awesome okay so then we had
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to put together a second table again
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with the wrong linen no centerpiece
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additional charge to the bride and groom
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and I had to have an assistant camp out
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at that table to make sure that that
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family got there and no one else
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jacked their seats open seating is like
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anxiety in a bucket if that’s such a
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thing I don’t know you know what I’m
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saying it causes people to freak out and
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get all sweaty about who they’re gonna
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sit next to guests don’t like open
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seating they don’t care about it give
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them a seat maybe not a specific one but
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give them a table it’s gonna make
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everything go so much more smoothly
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number nine
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cake guests don’t care about a seven
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tiered cake they just don’t in fact
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guests would prefer to have a dessert
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table with a bunch of dessert
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instead of a seven tier cake that has
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fondant on the outside of it that tastes
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like the bottom of someone’s shoe and no
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offense to anyone who actually enjoys
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the taste of fondant but I haven’t met
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anybody who does it is like a weird
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combination of rubber and gum and it has
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like a sugar eNOS to it but nobody
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actually enjoys that instead opt for
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something like a dessert table that has
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three to five desserts something
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chocolatey something sweet something
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with berries in it of lemon bar I don’t
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know go for more of a dessert table that
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guests will actually be excited about
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and invested in because then you’re more
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likely to please all these different
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tastes instead of this giant monstrosity
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of a gorgeous gorgeous wedding cake that
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most people won’t eat I’m not a person
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and you probably won’t see me eatin cake
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at your wedding day one cuz I’m working
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and that would be tacky and too cuz I
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don’t like cake so instead go for
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something more of a dessert table and
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that will be sure to tickle a lot more
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fancies number ten bouquet toss you
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don’t have to do one especially if
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you’re feeling awkward or uncomfortable
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or on the fence about it no one will
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leave your event going man we didn’t do
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a bouquet toss that was awful I’m so
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bummed out
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they let us just keep dancing on the
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dance floor and bugging and their deejay
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was so great and you just let us dance
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instead of stopping for bouquet toss
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where all of the single ladies get to
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parade out there and show their
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singleness to the world
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it’s like single Awareness Day but for a
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bunch of eyes to see this is great no
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nobody cares you don’t need to do a
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bouquet to us or a garter toss for that
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matter to if it makes you uncomfortable
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if it makes your fiance uncomfortable
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honestly no one will miss it and no one
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will be upset that you didn’t do it
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number eleven wedding favors if I had a
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nickel for every event that I worked
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that there were a bunch of favors left
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over afterwards I would have a nickel
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for every event that I’ve worked I
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cannot tell you how often this happens a
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bride and a groom will go out of their
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way and create something really sweet
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really cute
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handmade artists in blah blah blah and
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get it all put together and put a H seat
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or put in a table before the guests
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leave and there are a ton left over at
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the end of the night if
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if I can find the footage I will insert
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some footage here from an event that we
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worked recently where the bride had a
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bunch of succulents and had them at each
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place setting with people’s name tags in
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them for them to take and they still
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left a ton of them at the end of the
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night when I tell you that people leave
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favors look at all of these favors now I
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know people is still in the dance floor
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and they may come back for them but
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likely they’re not going to look at all
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these savor savor savor savor savor
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savor favorite favorite honestly people
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are not gonna come back to them I may or
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may not have like five of them in my
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house now but most people forget them
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they just do and see you spend all of
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your time making this sweet intentional
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artisanal gift to give to everyone and a
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lot of them get left behind and that
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sucks so instead if you really really
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feel like doing something even leave a
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little tag at each place setting saying
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in lieu of favors we decided to donate
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to 11 above every Baba and list your
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favorite charity or skip it altogether
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because again most guests won’t leave
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your event going oh I didn’t find any
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favorites do you find any favorites
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I’m man it’s not gonna happen they’re
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not gonna know people forget them people
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are not aware of them so put your time
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and energy elsewhere number 12 grand
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exit guests are not invested in the
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grand exit what they’re invested in is
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you guys so when it comes to whether you
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want to use sparklers or bubbles or
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ribbons the guests don’t care about the
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grand exit they don’t care about lining
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up they don’t care about having the
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photographer’s yell at them to smile and
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wave what they care about is you guys so
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don’t stress about those details it’s
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just not worth hey there are plenty of
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other areas that you can invest your
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time energy money blood sweat and tears
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into other than these twelve items that
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most people aren’t going to care about
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so there you have it twelve things that
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your guests don’t give a flying start
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and space about you’re welcome no but
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really spend your time energy money
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everything blood sweat and tears
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elsewhere because at the end of the day
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these twelve items really don’t build up
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your love story and they don’t make for
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an amazing or epic guest experience
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they’re just extras so instead
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your time Manan Minardi your time and
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monarchy elsewhere I don’t know what is
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wrong with me people you know come to me
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gonna celebrate the fact that I have now
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ended this video without a baby such a
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beautiful hand dad taught you to drink
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water from the homes that’s great not
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what I was looking for you’re acting
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weird cuz you’re on you’re on camera
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well and on that note alright
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